GF (23F) comes to me drunk and has some words to say

Submitted by javierthegoat_ t3_yimjo8 in relationship_advice

I am 23(M) and been dating my GF(23) for 17 months. she has been having a rough time lately and i’ve been doing my best to try and help out with what i do. i went out with some friends last week, and of course i ask her if it’s okay and she says yes so i go and do it. the next day comes around and she decides she wants to go have a girls night out so obviously i let her. all throughout the day she says she’s wanting to take a break because she feel like she needs time to find herself but obviously i don’t want to lose her so i try and work it out to save our relationship which works and she says she’ll see me after her girls night out. it comes time for her to see me and she heads on over but i try to calmly talk to her about our relationship, while she’s clearly a bit drunk but she starts to get irritated and then i notice she doesn’t have her promise ring on so i ask her where is it and that is what sets her off & she goes off on me saying she doesn’t like me anymore, she hates me and that i’m the reason why she’s so stressed and feeling bad . she also says she never wants to see me again and to not contact her. as she says that i try and calm her down but she pulls the ring out of her purse and throws it to me and decides to speed off. i didn’t talk to her for the rest of the night and in the morning i sent her a goodbye text, also telling her that i wish she starts feeling better and didn’t respond to any of her texts until she shows up at my door and proceeds to apologize and i take her back.

did i do the right thing ?

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davev9365720263 t1_iujef8x wrote

No, you did not do the right thing. You should not have taken her back.

Odds are she did something on the girl's night out and she is retroactively justifying what she did.

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oiler1996 t1_iujdtv9 wrote

Bad choice my friend you shouldnt have taken her back, she breaks up with you for a girls night out, she probably got with a guy thats why she wanted the break to start is to try him out, she completely disrespected you by throwing the promise ring at you and leaving, then after all these bad choices and she probably did do another guy that night, she comes crying to get you back, dont be a damn back up plan or safe option she doesnt love or respect you. Dump her for good and then block

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javierthegoat_ OP t1_iujgm9l wrote

that’s what i was thinking too. i told her a break is just an excuse to do other stuff, and she got offended by that. she was texting me throughout the night and i also suggested she leaves her friends so we can fix the relationship since it’s been rocky but she declined and said she didn’t want to disappoint her friends. it seems all bad, and everything when you think about it. ever since then ive been feeling distant from her & the connection isn’t there

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oiler1996 t1_iujjarb wrote

Dude i know it sucks to lose someone who you care about but look at the behaviour she presented you with, a break for girls night is her wanting to have a one night stand and cheat without it being labeled as cheating. She didnt want to disappoint her friends but she is fine with disrespecting you and being rude to you. She throw the promise ring at you, thats not something that someone does if they love you, she knew what she was doing the whole time and choose to do it, its not a good idea to take her back. Its only a matter of time till this happens again and she is disrespectful again. It sucks but its best to dump her and move on. She probably did something on girls night she regrets but she will never tell you, dont take someone back who doesnt treat you proper

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javierthegoat_ OP t1_iujkatg wrote

thanks man. i knew that’s what i had to do but i just needed someone else to say it

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oiler1996 t1_iujkka8 wrote

No problem man, good luck, go find someone who treats you right

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