Submitted by tidd494 t3_yiq9ok in relationship_advice
This whole thing may sound weird to you but please hear me out, I am truly scared of her as I believe she developed an unhealthy dependence on me.
A few months back, my sister [36F] told me she would never get better while living at our toxic home and chose to move away. But she did it without having any plan for work nor any saved up money. She stole a few belongings from the house and she has been calling various family relatives (whom she told me she doesn't trust) to lend her money.
Anyway, I felt weirded out by her actions because I personally would never do that and would just focus on getting a job. In addition to this, I'm going through my own mental health crisis, so I distanced myself from her while giving her some resources she could use on her own. But the phone calls and messages wouldn't stop even though I told her I couldn't support her anymore as I myself wasn't feeling well. Eventually, i stopped responding altogether.
After seventeen calls from her yesterday I finally caved in and called her back, and she told me that she was having an appendix crisis the night before but it passed. That's why she kept calling me. I asked her if she'd gone to the hospital or got checked, to which she said no and that I was the only person she contacted.
She then told me that she went to my school today to ask about me but couldn't remember which major I was in and asked me to tell her. I was legit scared at that moment I'm not gonna lie. I told her I'll talk to you later and hung up.
What is she doing? What does she want from me?
Tl;dr: I made it clear to sister that I wanted to focus on my own mental health and am not in a position to help her. But she won't stop calling/messaging and today went to school asking about me.
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