Submitted by thrownsaway87533 t3_xuzbgc in relationship_advice
i’m 24 and he’s 33. i met him around 3 months ago, but we only recently started going on dates about 6 weeks ago. i don’t know exactly how much he makes, but he’s an electrician so it’s a lot. looking at him he just looks expensive. he’s always wearing expensive watches, he smells like expensive cologne, he doesn’t wear designer clothes or anything but he could definitely afford it if he wanted to. he literally owns a machine for warming his towels! his house is luxurious. he lives in an apartment in dc so you probably wouldn’t expect much but my god. i didn’t even know this place existed.
i, on the other hand am a waitress. i work in 2 different diners 6 days a week and i don’t even make a fourth of what (i’m assuming) he makes. i make in a year what he makes in 4 months. he’s been to my place when he drops me off usually after our dates, so you’d think he knows i don’t make that much based off my apartment.
the problem comes in on date nights. he always wants to go out to fancy, borderline black tie restaurants and i just can’t afford them. for our first date he took me to the quill. i didn’t want to be rude and expect him to pay so i insisted we split the bill and ended having to ask my sister to help me with groceries the following week. i don’t want to be rude and tell him no to the dates, but i simply can’t let him pay the bill in full without feeling guilty. i just want to stay in and order takeout or something. i don’t want to have to choose between being able to pay my bills and going on a date with him.
he told me that he had reservations for this weekend already at some restaurant i can’t even pronounce, and i’m just wondering the best way to bring this up to him.
TLDR; my boyfriend is super rich and i need advice on how to tell him to stop taking me to expensive places because i can’t afford it.