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HarveySnake t1_iydhz23 wrote

When you are in a committed monogamous relationship the only body count that matters is 1: your partner. You only have sex with your partner. Everything before the relationship doesn't matter.

Stop fixating on stupid stuff or you will destroy this relationship.

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[deleted] t1_iydipod wrote

29 with a count of around 30-35. I lost count in the later teens and early 20s but based on the periods of being single and my relationships I can roughly estimate it.

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VariationX7 t1_iydlngu wrote

Why did you think it was lower? I couldn't tell you my exact number if I wanted to, I was pretty wild in my early teens and college so mine was significantly higher at your age, intimacy has changed for me a lot over the years specifically when I got with my current SO, before it was purely physical pleasure for me, so I had very casual approach to it, but now a lot of the enjoyment is the emotional side. As long as you're comfortable with your partners past and their views of intimacy align with yours I think that's what matters.

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VariationX7 t1_iydm68u wrote

Replying to HarveySnake (#812,157)

It does matter within reason, views on intimacy can be dealbreaker. Also stuff like infidelity in the past can most certainly be a dealbreaker, saying it doesn't matter removes all accountability from the decisions we made. If your partner isn't comfortable with your past then you weren't right for eachother in the first place.

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Hollergurl t1_iydoba0 wrote

I learned a very long time ago to not engage with this line of questioning. If my lack of response to the question drove them away then so would my answer. The only thing that matters is that I do not raise my body count while in a committed relationship. For the record I am in my 50's.

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