Should I reevaluate my hobbies in order to find a relationship? Or should I continue just doing what I enjoy doing?

Submitted by PrimateOfGod t3_z91uoi in relationship_advice

My biggest hobby is writing. It's a very personal and not a socially inclusive hobby. I'm writing a fiction novel.

On top of that, I'm writing a compendium of my favorite mythological devices. So there's a bit of research there, that could lead me to magick shops from time to time, but mostly it's a personal journey of reading articles on mythology on the internet.

That's not to say I never go out. I've been going out to coffee shops with the intention of approaching strangers, preferably women who appear to be single, and chatting them up. I've also been on dating apps (you know how that goes...) other than that, I don't really know what else I can do? I'm not into sports, I don't drink, there's really no social hobbies that would seem appealing for me and the only reason I'd be doing them is in search of a relationship.

I'm outdoorsy a little bit. But only in the summer. I'll ride my bicycle or go for walks mostly. Again, that's not really a great way to meet people either, at least not in the small town that I live in.

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_iyei7v4 wrote

Join writing groups?

I am in one—we started for NaNoWriMo about a decade ago and kept it going. You might meet some likeminded people that way.

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PrimateOfGod OP t1_iyeiwfh wrote

What do writing groups consist of?

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_iyej40z wrote

Usually you just meet up as a group at a coffee shop or something and write together. Maybe bounce ideas off of each other. Generally just hang out.

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Lexotron t1_iyeknye wrote

Approaching people who look single at coffee shops is a big no-no.

People go to coffee shops to have coffee. Or to work. They don't go to be approached by single dudes.

Look on social media for singles events where people are specifically there to meet potential romantic partners. You'll have better luck and won't come across as creepy.

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PrimateOfGod OP t1_iyen6st wrote

I see nothing wrong with trying to strike up a conversation with a stranger, asking if I can buy them a coffee or sit with them. They can always say no. Who cares if I come across as creepy to one person? To another they may like the company or be looking for someone themselves.

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Lexotron t1_iyepzy2 wrote

People can always say no, but sometimes people feel pressured to be agreeable.

If they're looking for someone themselves, why aren't you just sitting there so they can approach you?

Stop being a creep.

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