Is my girlfriends dating history of being engaged twice and calling both off a red flag?

Submitted by throwrabumblegfjwuai t3_z97mr2 in relationship_advice

A lot of people have told me its a red flag. I just finally asked her why she called off both engagements and she said they either treated her like a trophy or didnt listen enough/try enough.

I have other concerns about potential red flags but these stick out for me the most, we’re both 25 so its weird that shes already been proposed to twice. One of the guys still hits her up (tries to) but she has him blocked on everything.

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Altruistic_Passion51 t1_iyfeim9 wrote

How are these red flags? Sounds like she wanted to be respected and not just there for looks. She's 25, maybe she had the mindset that those "lustful" days would end but they didn't do she said no. She also has the dude blocked so again, how is that a red flag?

If you have doubts, the answer is simple: don't propose to her

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TheMasked1der t1_iyfedoe wrote

Def not a green flag lol.. if she felt that way about both, why say yes in the first place? And why have 2 people proposed by the time she's 25? Is she manipulating the guys into these proposals, and then backing out due to either cold feet/heart?

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Gosc101 t1_iyfelul wrote

Well that calls for thorough inquiry. She really should be aware how it makes her look like, so I hope if you do decide to ask more about in the future she will indulge your curiosity. The problem assuming she has told you truth then the question why was she engaged? There is certainly a reason for that some kind of emotional problem that only made her reconsider things when she was engaged.

Otherwise can't tell anything more, because we lack information.

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Ainz-Ooal-Gown t1_iyfdykw wrote

Yes its a red flag. Did she keep the rings from both as that would be another. As to your question about having that many engagements is she dropping hints or dud these guys just propose quickly for some reason?

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