(28F) (32F) (34M) SIL blocked me on all social media with no explanation

Submitted by maddawg992 t3_zzvrbs in relationship_advice

So I know my sister in law and my parents don’t get along she basically told them to fuck off and they don’t exist to her anymore back in May when they went on a vacation together. There was an argument in front of my parents and my nephews and my sister in law told my brother to divorce her if he’s so unhappy, so my mom said do not do this in front of your kids you one son it crying so keep them out of your argument. I’m sure there was more but I only heard my parents side of the argument

Either way I’ve been in contact with my SIL since then and even danced with her at a wedding and talked to her about gifts for her boys even as recent as beginning of December!

On Christmas I stayed at my brothers house and my SIL didn’t come downstairs from their bedroom once to say hi and I was there form 3pm to 9 am.

The only thing I know happened is her son came out to me Christmas Eve and said SIL told him it’s a phase. I told him it isn’t and I’ll take him to pride this summer before he goes to high school. But I do not know if he told her about that because he’s a quiet 14 year old

This morning I woke up to being blocked on Instagram and Facebook. Social media isn’t important to me but my brother never posts n my SIL posts pictures of my nephews all the time and I’ll I do it interact with love on those posts or tag her in my memories of her boys when they were little to share their cuteness!

So my question is do I reach out to my brother to ask what’s going on and why I was blocked but if he doesn’t know it will start drama or do I try to reach out to her? And how do I reach out?

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Stunning-Profit8876 t1_j2du4bo wrote

Parents don't like to be undermined. Especially by the inlaws, even if they are being homophobic towards their child. Speak to your brother about it and go from there.

Can you maintain a relationship with your brother and Nephew without her? If so, I'd take it as a win that you don't have to be around her. She sounds horrible.

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2e3orj wrote

I can maintain a relationship with my brother and nephews (sorta) without her. She sometimes when she’s upset will isolate herself and make her boys stay in her room with her but my 14yo nephew just got a cellphone so I can be in contact with him that way!

Update: she blocked everyone in my brothers family. Aunts, uncles, cousins, and our parents. Weirdly she did not block my friends from home she has gone out with when I’m home

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2dtwfk wrote

It just seems so random since that argument happened in May and I wasn’t even there and allowed her to vent about my parents to me too. The reason I want to reach out is because it makes me feel like I did something wrong! I treated her like a friend, even to the point when I was home for whatever she would go out with me and my friends

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2e3g8m wrote

Update: she blocked everyone in my brothers family. Aunts, uncles, cousins, and our parents. Weirdly she did not block my friends from home she has gone out with when I’m home. So it’s not just me

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2e5i85 wrote

The reason I say it’s weird is because she does not spend time with her without me and only sees her with me or when she comes to family events my dad called her the other daughter he always wanted since we knew each other before any of my brothers were married or even dating their now wives. But yea I agree SIL might not see her that way

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2e687f wrote

I sent him the following text “Hey I don’t want to cause anything just want want to know if I did anything that upset SIL because she blocked me on Facebook. If so then I want to apologize but I’m not sure what I did”

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2e9h1q wrote

My bad I will definitely send a follow up text them asking if he is alright

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2edxiw wrote

I tried to call twice he did not answer so I sent this “Or if you need to talk don’t hesitate to reach out to me, you’ve been there for me and I’ll always be there for you! I love you and I’m sorry if I did anything to cause waves in your relationship and would love to help anyway you think I can❤️”

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maddawg992 OP t1_j2eacpb wrote

You are right! Unfortunately I live 1,000 miles away or I would definitely meet up with him

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