You want words of wisdom, I will abide. The issue is not your partner. The issue is you. I want you to screen shot this response, along with your original post, and show it to your Mother and Father. Seriously. I'm dead serious. If you can share this horrific shit with stranger on Reddit asking for life altering advice about this absolute POS, then ask the two people in your life that actually give a shit.

You're not foolish, you're just in shock. Pack, call Mom and Dad, or sister, or brother, or best friend, get in your car and get the hell out of there. You're worried about being too controlling. Absolutely ridiculous. Go. Today. Now.

Anything less makes you complicit.