Submitted by 4centavos t3_1006oqr in relationship_advice
Hi. Last week I found out my partner [24M] had sent nudes and weird messages to two other people, both of which were people I’ve had suspicion about in the past and has asked him not to engage with and he’d previously done something similar in the past with other people but we were able to move past it.
It’s now happened again and I’m not too sure what to do. He seems apologetic, but honestly don’t see how I can throw myself fully into trusting him a third time without being overly controlling and policing (it’s not good for the relationship and I don’t want to do that). I also don’t want to be foolish and fall victim to this a fourth time. I’m really stuck and would appreciate any words of wisdom from people. Should this just be the end?
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