[24F][29M] Best approach to calling out lying for sensitive subjects?

Submitted by doubledeez2nite t3_zyt88c in relationship_advice

I’ve (24) been seeing this guy (29) for a couple of months now and really thought we could make it long-term but, now I don’t feel the same. One thing I hate is when someone lies and doesn’t admit it. I can tell when someone is lying pretty well, and he’s a terrible liar. The first time we hooked up, he didn’t have any condoms so I asked him if he wore any with other women. He said yes… ok why don’t you have any? And when he bought some, he got the wrong size. I just can’t come to believe he uses them if he doesn’t know his size. I’ve also had to tell him he needs to give effort during sex and he didn’t take it well since he felt old and gets tired really fast. I was honest but very considerate at how I worded myself during that convo and never meant to make him feel that way. He’s not even old. We were fine afterwards but then recently, when we hooked up, he tried to fake an orgasm. I could tell he was getting tired but he took the condom off super quick and said he came a little. I didn’t see anything on the condom as he pulled it off, didn’t let me check it, and I didn’t taste anything when I went down. I told him to not lie and he said he wasn’t, giving me complements to sidetrack after. I just let it go and moved on. I want us to both have fun and I’ve even told him if he’s tired, let’s take a break or I’ll take over again. How do I tell him his lies are apparent since he is sensitive? Or am I just overthinking?

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I_M_TOXIC_2 t1_j27sdxk wrote

Leave the poor dude alone. Maybe he'll find someone he's more comfortable with.

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apatrol t1_j283v9t wrote

Tired? How long does he last and is in poor health or greatly overweight? Y’all should be in the honeymoon phase and banging pretty much non stop. Which makes me think there is a issue, but it sounds like he isn’t mature enough to talk about sex and satisfying you,

If you can’t fix the sex soon it won’t be fixed and that is really bad for a long term relationship. Sorry!

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doubledeez2nite OP t1_j2946ny wrote

I’m not asking whether I should stay with him or not, I’m asking how I can call his lies out without upsetting him too much. We both want to make it work and I already spoke to him about him getting tired. He’s in good shape, just has bad stamina and has issues wearing condoms. He’ll wear them for me though. I want to try to talk it out 1 last time before I end things

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