[23F] [29M] [19M] I'm being played and keep falling for it

Submitted by __GLOAT t3_zyh4mh in relationship_advice

Good afternoon Reddit,

I continually seem to fall into the same trap time and time again, this girl that I have been seeing off-and-on for 3 years now has consistently had other relationships that she has lied about. Each time I confront about the relationship she assures me that she stopped talking to the individual and that it's over.

This has happened countless time and I know fool on me.. But this last time seemed like the last straw and I'm really bent out of shape over it.

The girl in question asked if I was free for lunch to have it together, my work allows me to take lunch whenever needed so I can choose when to. It was about an hour before I could get an answer back on a timeframe to have lunch, by the time I sent the time she responded with "Oh no, I'm already heading to lunch" totally negating the information about who she's with or if she's with anyone else. I said I'd take the bike that I got her 3-year-old as a Christmas present to her at the restaurant just so her little one could have it and know I care!

Turns out the way I find out she isn't alone with her daughter is she says "Oh but I didn't take my car" in which she lets me know that she's with her Daughter, and Insert males name (who she said she was not talking to anymore..) I'm now sad AGAIN, because this isn't the first time it has happened, and I'm assuming not the last.

What should be my next steps to break this toxic cycle and get out of the relationship for good?

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Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_j25spgj wrote

How is it hard to end a relationship? Just stop communicating.

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__GLOAT OP t1_j25t1zb wrote

True and I attempt to, I will block them in all communication, and they will continue to create new fake numbers, emails or even discord to try and communicate with me.

You are correct, I need to stay strong in stopping communication.

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Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_j25tdev wrote

Treat them the same way you do the people who want to clean your heating ducts.

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