[21M] [21F] What should I do?

Submitted by Top_Eagle2812 t3_zzrvje in relationship_advice

I’m dating this girl for around 4 months. We have been on and off however for a year now. We are on winter break for about 3 weeks. For more than a week. She hasn’t texted me or called me. When I texted her she was like I’m with my family, and responded with I don’t want to talk to you, I just want to talk to my family. The thing is it’s been more than a week. I haven’t received a single text or anything since then, and I just feel I’m walking on eggshells around her, since I’m scared if I say anything she will breakup with me. I just feel like she could communicate better which I have told her to in the past but there is not attempt to make things better. Sometimes it feels like she knows I’ll be there for her always so she takes advantage of that and just ghosts me whenever cause when she does feel like talking to me again or needs me, I will there for her. I don’t know when to reach out again or what to say for that matter. We have arguments more than usual and sometimes breaking up comes up and I don’t want to, but she always mentions it, and says it’s not working.

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borkenschnorke t1_j2d8psg wrote

Dating is not about figuring out how to behave to get the other person to like you. Sooner or later your true feelings and values will come out anyways. Dating is about finding a person that you are compatible with and has the same values.

So you dislike her going completely silent for over a week. Not even a text now and then or a call every few days. Its totally viable and understandable that you dislike that. Now its not about changing your own character to accomodate her. It is about telling her that you dislike this behavior and then you can find a compromise or you walk away.

You say she knows you will always be there for her. If she knows you are simping she has no respect for you anyways. She thinks she is the price and you are lucky to have her maybe.

So my honest advice here is. Have some selfrespect and either tell her that this bevior is not okay and if she keeps behaving that way or, even better, just walk away. If it is like that after 4 months then this relationship is going down the drains eventually anyways. You can now go out of it, having learned a valuable life lessen and get a more suitable woman for the next or you let her trample your ego for a while longer until she dumps you for the next best guy when she gets bored of you.

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Odd-Jackfruit-2375 t1_j2dcw9v wrote

Also, I see you have tried to post something asking if you're in a toxic relationship...yes, yes, yes, completely and totally 100% without a doubt you are in a toxic, abusive relationship.

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forest1000 t1_j2dfaib wrote

Run and never look back. She's a toxic abuser and user. Fully block her and solve your problems. You'll be better for it.

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