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You need to worry about your own well being first.

You can in fact break up with her. You’re responsible for YOUR well-being, not hers.

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You need to break up with her. If you don't, you are wasting both of your time.

That said, you can still support her as a friend even after breaking up.

It was unhealthy that she became dependent on you in the relationship. Though it was not necessarily her fault as you said she had a rough family. But you need to let her be aware that she is becoming dependent and it's not healthy.

How is the situation with the rent? Does she share the rent with you or is she financially dependent?

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I have been in this situation except we didn’t live together. You have to break up with her and it’s not going to be easy. You are not responsible for her life or her personal struggles. I do understand that you care, but you can’t stay together because she has a hard life and if you stay together it’s going to really deteriorate and end badly. I promise you, the longer you stay the more unpleasant the ending will be.

Hi and thanks for the advice. Yes we share rent. I pay the majority as I earn more money though. That again was decision. She wanted to pay 50 50 but I knew it would result in very little money for her to have after bills

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No prob. Here I'm assuming that you still care about her as a person despite no longer having romantic feelings.

As others said, you need to prioritize your own well-being. Though, you can make the break-up as amicable as it can and help her get through the situation.

The most important thing is her living condition. You can help her with apartment hunting. Since she is financially independent, there might be places that she can afford around there.

Encourage her to expand her social circle, or take up hobbies and have online friends if she's having trouble with irl social interactions.

If you’re not happy, it’s not gonna get better with time. You should break up. But there’s a way to break it off and still be supportive if she really needs it

Same feeling happened with me not too long ago. It was hard, but after I broke up with her I felt relief, not sadness. At least not much