My [26F] boyfriend [26M] is liking girls half naked pics all the time

Submitted by throwawaycausedamnit t3_10q4xxt in relationship_advice

I’ve noticed recently that my [26F] boyfriend [26M] is always liking pictures of hot girls online being provocative or not wearing much. I knew he followed some hot girls as I see it when he scrolls sometimes, and that doesn’t bother me.

However, doesn’t like them when I’m there which means that’s only if I’m not around. And I feel like it’s really disrespectful to be liking saucy pics of girls online all the time? What’s the point of it? What’s his aim? It feels very thoughtless towards our relationship and his respect of me.

I’m going to bring it up, but how can I best communicate this to him so he understands why it’s hurtful?

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PoorCorrelation t1_j6nxkk1 wrote

It’s not intrinsically a problem. Lots of people can enjoy saucy photos, and even full-on porn and experience no negative effects on their relationships.

So is it a problem for you? That’ll vary from person to person. And only you can decide. If it is, know before hand where you draw the line. Any bikini pic or just sexualized ones? Is it just the liking or is the viewing a problem? What about porn? Remember to think about how you draw this line affects his life, banning him from seeing his sister’s beach vacation photos would be too much. Tell him you want to discuss y’all’s sexual media consumption and be ready for him to tell you what he’s not comfortable with you viewing either. And remember he can choose to walk away from the relationship over this, but that just means you’re not compatible.

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DplusLplusKplusM t1_j6nysdu wrote

Unless you're citing this as the reason you're breaking up with him it's probably pointless to say anything. It's not like he's going to stop doing it just because you ask him. There's a social disconnect in people willing to publicly exhibit their lust like this. It's a personality type, not just an annoying habit.

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trishsf t1_j6nul93 wrote

How long have you been together? If you are a solid and established couple then it’s fair to say that you don’t like it and ask him to stop.

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