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Get out. Now. Yesterday. Break up and call his parents or friends or 911 if he makes a threat. He is controlling you through fear. Soon it could be much, much worse. Tell your parents, your family, and/or your friends what is going on. Be safe.

Red flag central. Get out of that mess immediately. Tell his family that he's threatening to hurt himself, and leave him. It will only get worse from there.

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It does not matter. You've I formed them that of his threats. What they decide to do from there is up to them, but it's no longer your responsibility, and you can get out. Get yourself out, then inform them, then cut off complete contact.

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You are not responsible for him. He might try to convince you that you are, that it will be your fault. But it is not. He can choose not to hurt himself, but he is using the threat as a way to get you to do what he wants. He knows you will feel guilty and it will make you hesitate.

You are going to have to be very clear with him, and don’t get sucked into a conversation about it. A text will be fine. Break up, bare minimum explanation. If he goes off on you, threatens to hurt himself, you can tell him you will call his family to do a welfare check on him or failing that, the police. It is probably best that you also block him.

This man isn’t a victim. He’s not poor and helpless, he is manipulating you and trying to isolate you. Tell your friends you are going to break up with him and you would like them to be with you when you do, because you’re concerned about your own safety and maybe even being strong enough to block him/call the police if required.

You can do this. Don’t let this guy control you.

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Make sure to tell your friends and family if you're concerned about your safety or anything he says. You can lean on other people. No one is going to judge you if he says a bunch of crazy stuff. You don't have to figure it out on your own, you can ask for help from other people in your life.

But seriously block him. Don't feel obligated to keep in contact. You're not responsible for his mental health.