Submitted by ThrowRamandelorian t3_10qcc41 in relationship_advice
Bit of a background
Im a 42 M married for 6 years and i love my wife 43 F. Over the last 2 years though, although we are loving towards each other, the intimacy has vanished. i have tried multiple times to communicate with her about it but nothing has come of it . i am and always have been a very intimate person. i love kissing, foreplay making love and just in general being intimate but for some reason unknown to me it has vanished from her scope of needs in her life . last time we were sexually together was over a month ago and even then it felt like she was doing me a Favour which i never want ( i want to be wanted and desired like i do with her) . i have asked if its me or if i have done something to bring this on but she skirts around it saying there is nothing wrong . I have never been unfaithful , i don't think I'm unattractive ( i could be wrong there lol ) , I'm the bread winner in the house and provide everything i can for her and the kids ( which are not my biological kids ) but i love them nonetheless.
In my shoes what would be the next step as far as approaching the situation ?
TYIA
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