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trishsf t1_j6nwtng wrote

He’s making this decision knowing he’ll be away from you for 2 months. It’s not as if he isn’t aware of it. 4 months isn’t long and if this is a big opportunity for him, he should go. If your relationship is meant to be then 2 months is nothing.

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Throwaway88888907 t1_j6nyg57 wrote

Sure! I wouldn't hold him back from going... that's not the point here!

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trishsf t1_j6o0cy0 wrote

What is? Because it sounds as if you don’t want him to go or that you believe that you should make this decision together. If he’s not including you in the decision then he’s clearly saying that he isn’t at the place where he believes that you make life decisions together.

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Throwaway88888907 t1_j6o3jvd wrote

The point is consideration for your partner in what would essentially put us in an LDR. I want them to do what's right for them, and recognize that it's totally their decision to make! Again, would totally not hold them back from going, I just think it's an important space for a dialogue

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trishsf t1_j6o755d wrote

I agree if you’re both really invested in this relationship. I’m not trying to be unkind. I just think it shows that he may not be on the same page. Actions speak louder than words.

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