Submitted by ThrowRA_itsmenotyou t3_10pbuh4 in relationship_advice
Sorry if this is poorly written.
About 8 months ago, I met a very lovely woman and we hit it off completely. She has her own life (kids, work, hobbies) but we make things work and see each other whenever possible and are in touch daily. I love her and she has also stated that she loves me. We have talked about long term plans of being together once we are both done with our other obligations.
Whilst all of these wonderful experiences have been going on, I have been dealing with what I thought were minor medical issues. I never let on to my GF (so as to not worry her and add another dynamic to our relationship) that I've been having any issues and they were so "minor" that I was able to get away with it.
After many medical appointments and many tests, my doctors informed me late last week that the problems aren't so minor and the prognosis is not good.
I absolutely do not want to burden this wonderful woman with what I'm going to be dealing with.
Do I lie and make up a story or do I tell her the truth? Can anyone see a way out of this without lying or telling her the truth?
Regardless of how I approach this, I will not be staying with her.
ETA: Folks, thank you for the input. I will be telling her the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I'm sorry so many of you can't accept that I will be ending the relationship but that wasn't a question I asked about and it IS my absolute right to do so.