These folks seem intent on bending you over the barrel.

None of these pricey repairs are things that happen 'immediately' without an incident. Signs of the impending problems appear before the problem manifests. Why have these people that you visit regularly not seen these signs and mentioned them to you?

Take your car elsewhere. If they reject it, no problem. Take it elsewhere. If there really are problems that need be addressed then you can take care of them.

Anecdotally I drive a 2016 Honda HRV with 60,000 miles on it. The only work on your list that has been done to it is an oil change and a brake fluid change. Because both of those were called for by the car's maintenance schedule. Shucks, Nelliebeth still has her original shoes and is going to pass inspection this spring with them.