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crrieger t1_iy8ci5v wrote

A podcast isn't a person that you connect with on a tangible level. People are right, it's a weak substitute for genuine interactions and likely makes us lonelier in the long run as our ability to have in-person connections atrophies. I can hear them talk, but no one hears me.

I realized I was doing this awhile back as my job has very little need for me to talk to a person face-to-face. I email or text most things whenever possible to avoid interacting in person. Podcasts and audio books filled the gap for awhile, but now I just sit in silence most of the day.

Some of us simply don't have the wiring to hae actual friends. Podcasts and audiobooks are marginally better than facing rejection when we try to "put ourselves out there." At least a podcast doesn't tell you to go away.

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Evelyn-in-the-woods t1_iydux9o wrote

Just want to say I used to genuinely believe that some people weren’t wired to have friendships and I was one of them. I ended up going to a lot of therapy and worked through a lot of self loathing and now making connections is sooo much easier than it was. Everyone deserves to and is capable of making friends as long as you are kind to yourself and you focus on meeting “your people”

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Evelyn-in-the-woods t1_iydxt4q wrote

I’m sorry you are having a hard time! Even so, you do have value and you do deserve to be loved.

Being ND and LGBTQ, it took me a long time to realize that trying to force myself into the NT/straight crowds wasn’t going to work.

But the world is big and we all deserve peace! (And we all deserve some great podcast crews too)

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