Your Father in Law was just being honest without being pushy about the wedding. Like your Mother in Law saw, she had intrusive family, so they are taking a step back.

I’m with the FIL on this. Everyone will remember your wedding if they went hungry; not how “nice” the food looked.

I had a 4 course meal at mine, with a dessert to follow. Appetizers and catering was also provided. People loved the food; and there was plenty leftover.

He just wants you to know that although you want to have this haute cuisine, to consider how the guests will feel when they’re starved to death because of lack of food.

You didn’t mess up anything, he’s just telling you to keep this in mind - without being intrusive.