hellzkeeper1216 t1_je5r3q3 wrote on March 29, 2023 at 4:40 PM

You need to get a handle on your shit before you go into a relationship with somebody. It takes two to tango and yeah this time you realize how great he was to you but did you take into account his feelings? Is this going to be another thing you're going to have another episode and you're going to break up with them again? Don't ruin a great guy.

[deleted] OP t1_je5uy38 wrote on March 29, 2023 at 5:04 PM

I understand what you are saying and I don't disagree with you. I do want to say however that now I know that this is something I might experience again, I can recognize the symptoms, and I can inform my close circle that it's happening and that I might say thing that I don't actually mean. He actually has been very capable and willing to help me get through things like emotional outbursts and mood swings. During the breakup call he also mentioned that he didn't see/experience anything I mentioned in a negative manner. If it would be too much for him to try again, it would be solely because of this one incident. Which is very valid of course.

Exciting_Telephone65 t1_je5y2ke wrote on March 29, 2023 at 5:23 PM

This is not a carte blanche for you to "say things you don't mean". You need to take this seriously and start working hard on keeping this under control.

[deleted] OP t1_je5zwlg wrote on March 29, 2023 at 5:35 PM

Maybe I am taking your message too literally (if so I apologize), but I don't think it's fair to say that I am not taking it seriously. I obviously am, if I wasn't I wouldn't have written this post and done all the things I did since it happened. I didn't expect people to give me sympathy or whatever but I do find it kind of weird how the responses so far make it seem like I'm not taking accountability for my actions.