I feel your pain. I'm 31m, been dying my hair black for years, and the last time I wanted a change, I tried to go blonde. My shoulder length hair became a medieval friar bob lol. My hair was elastic and breaking so badly if you just looked at it wrong. Luckily like I said, I'm a man, so when I had to shave my head it wasn't the worst thing, but still. Best of luck to you!