slimzimm t1_j2cl2p1 wrote on December 31, 2022 at 6:15 AM

Reply to comment by seasamgo in TIFU by reconnecting with my EX girlfriend by Ltislande

I know I’ll get downvotes for saying this but I really think the people of Reddit have a problem with saying things in absolutes. Maybe OP isn’t a terrible PERSON but OP did a terrible thing in that moment. If I do something idiotic, I don’t mind being told I did something stupid, but I really hate being called an idiot just because I did something wrong one time. OP you need to work through this, get counseling, end your current relationship, and learn from this bad experience.

seasamgo t1_j2cn6d2 wrote on December 31, 2022 at 6:38 AM

I'm not going to downvote you. I get it and absolutes aren't always helpful. But this seemed deliberate and selfish, not just a slip and dumb. We may feel or be the best person on the inside but we're still terrible when we do terrible things. What's that quote from Dark Knight? "It's not who you are underneath, it's what you do that defines you." Doesn't mean they can't learn from it and work to be a better person, but damn.