So basically, you non-consenually forced your kink on someone. That is a fuck up.

Socks to be you right now...

That was a lot of words to say that you still can't own and accept responsibility for your own obviously creepy behavior

Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You fucked up and were creepy and were blocked. Don’t bring up foot topics when people think you have a foot fetish.

If you were trying to convince us that you don't have a foot fetish, you have completely failed. Even the fact that so many other foot related things "came up" (shoes, pedal, flip flops, ladder) indicates a weird obsession.

Wtf did I just read…

I can think of zero times, in my life, that I have asked someone to take off!

“TIFU by asking my friend to take their socks off”

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No other explanation needed

What could he have said that would satisfy you enough to believe he owned and accepted responsibility for his behavior? I’m genuinely curious, because I felt like he was owning up to being a weirdo.

I read thinking there had to be a logical reason for asking this, but nope.

I read the title and knew exactly where this was going.

It reads a little bit like it was less of a joke than op thought, and possibly that they themselves aren't all that aware. The ironic feet pics was what really made me wonder.

But I also don't think this comment was the best way to help them think more critically about their own actions.

Op definitely likes feet

If you learn one lesson from this, it should be that you should let it drop the first time they say something that effectively means, "No." If you don't learn that lesson, you'll be getting off lightly if the worst that happens is that you lose friends over it.

I had to have multiple surgeries on my feet, so I always wear socks because I am self conscious about the hideous scars. But you do seem creepy

Am I correctly understanding that you creeped a person out by repeatedly asking them to take their socks off, and then were so distraught by their rejection that you bashed your head into the tile floor of an AirBnB and considering jumping off a railing? Dude...get help, please. You do not seem well.

Ouch, This hurts me right in the feels almost as much as OP's narrative.

I would tell them they’re absolutely right and that you totally misread the tone. I’d say I genuinely DONT have a foot thing and would have dropped it immediately if I had accurately assessed that tone. I’d say I understand if they don’t want to talk to me again, but that my friends are important to me and I’d hate to lose one of few over a bad joke. I’d tell them I guess I didn’t know them like that well enough to push those buttons and would definitely not have had I realized the actual situation. Basically I’d just stress I misread my audience and went down the full joke path. If they seemed open to discussing it or considered your apology, I might add that after the fact I remembered the ridiculous posts about feet I had made some time ago and facepalmed when I realized how that must have looked in retrospect. The ball is ultimately in their court, best you can do is be honest, but this will leave you vulnerable. The way I’d look at it, is I’d rather just put everything on the table and not wonder what I could have done to save it later.

I came to the conclusion that misreading the tone was my biggest mistake

won't do it again

Did you feel it in your toes?

Therapy. I swear it's great, helps you a lot. And I'm saying this as a genuine recommendation, not to make fun of you.

This is a pretty common tactic for emotionally immature people. Basically they super overvillianize themselves for the very obvious bad thing they did in hopes they look like the victim and will be comforted

“Look at me on this cross! Have I not suffered enough?!”

Yep I notice they also didn’t include their friends gender. I’m thinking op DOES have a foot fetish perved on his “friend” tried to walk it back as a joke and self-harmed in response to his consequences.

Hope he gets some therapy

There is

OP has a foot fetish

I enjoy this creative text

>I used to post feet pics ironically as a joke

Uh-huh... Ironically, he says.

What do we make of this statement, fellow redditors?

Dafuq did I just read 😥

How does someone posts feet pics ironically? One tive? Ok, but regularly? Ahah

Apologize to them in person.

That will knock their socks off!!

Yeah this is like the #1 obvious excuse xD

Yea I’m an ER Nurse. This sounds a lot like the stories that end with a foreign body removal from someones rectum. One poor pt. had locked himself out of his apt., so he had to climb in his kitchen window, and he fell onto a ketchup bottle that happened to be on the kitchen floor wearing a condom and he happened to not be wearing pants or underwear. What an unlucky day s/.

Has anyone else come to the conclusion that OP might also be a little on the ASD spectrum? I didn't even really consider foot fetish until I read the comments.

Compared to others, autistics are way more likely to upset people in social situations due to simply not reading the room accurately, not dropping a subject, accidentally crossing boundaries, etc. Either way your friend's response is out of your control OP, I'd suggest getting therapy and put the work into learning how to love yourself so you don't want to jump from a balcony from the sheer pain of the rejection.

Also IBS sufferers here, the gut pain part is too real. Eating a little better, taking probiotics and improving mental state have a huge effect on gut pain.

Thanks for you advice, my gut pain seems to have subsided and am working on bettering myself with this TIFU

I wish i could say the same

got me laughing for few minutes there. thanks lol

In hindsight its definitely weird to think about. Socks on a slippery wooden ladder are a safety concern tho, When we were heading to the attic

Any tips for not falling in a overvillianing spiral ? I want to break out of this habit.

It does read like an excuse. It started of as a joke cuz it was funny for my friends to go "whyyyyyy", and became a basis for new jokes as i posted more.

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Eventually it became fun to think of new and ridiculous ways to use feet in a funny manner so you are right in saying that its not ironic.

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I should probably stop tho as the results of a long term cost benefit analysis proved that its only ruining my social life more

I certainly will have to. and they certainly will be wearing shoes when i do so that hopefully wont happen

I'd say stopping would be the wise decision, aye :D

it is quite confusing dont worry about it

thanks for your advice.

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however it is not a readily option for me so ill stick to talking to myself in the shower

Seems to be the general consensus yes

Doing it in person is much more powerful than via an app or SMS.

They will have to face humanity!

yup that appears to be the result.

Hey no shame, just figure your stuff out and learn to drop a joke after two strikes

Why would you push someone on anything like that? It's not your business. They may have private reasons to do or not do a thing. Leave people alone about their choices about things that don't impact you.

My own family has a history of horrible toe fungus. So, I have a habit of not being barefoot because I don't want to get a toe fungus from anyone. Someone else might have a toe fungus and not wish to spread it or have others see it.

You also live in a world full of creepy men. Blame the creeps. If you encounter any, raise hell at them for making women distrustful and wary.

And yeah, you tifu.

It's tough ngl

I was raised by narcissist substance abusers and developed A LOT of bad habits/survival strategies, but this was the most pernicious. Not saying you or are parents are narcissists, but my apple didn't fall far from that tree...

I would strongly recommend finding a DBT therapist to help you work out your inner dialog

In the short term, start doing things that make you respect yourself (i.e. dont tell anyone, or expect praise). You can't care about anyone more than yourself. Literally. Anything more is codependent. Your own self esteem IS the bar

I'm pulling for you, you've got a long, tough slog but you're young and asking the right questions. At least the questions I wish I had asked when I was 17 lol

You probably should.

I'll do my best

am doing my best to learn from this

I understand my mistake in hindsight now. Sock are definitely a more sensitive topic than i thought

The hardest part is figuring out what does and doesn't mean no.

I am doing my best to learn.

Got any tips?

It's not just socks. If somebody says no about something that is rightfully their own decision, drop it. People have private reasons for all sorts of decisions they make for themselves. I'm glad you learned this about socks. Hopefully you'll take it as a broader life lesson as well. We are going make mistakes in life. That is a given. It is up to us to grow as much as we possibly can from it. I trust that ypu can and will.

I have made it my goal to learn as much as i can

Also I will have to learn the difference between encouraging someone and pressuring them.

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any ideas?

Trust that people can make their own choices about stuff.

If you take off your socks and enjoy the carpet, they'll join you if they want to. And they won't, if they don't want to. This is just an example. The idea behind it applies to a lot of situation beyond socks.

I personally like to communicate directly, because Ive misread situations and social cues more than once. So Im likely to just ask someone, "Is this something you would like encouragement for/about or would you like me to drop it?"

I'm not a mind reader. And most other folks probably arent either. So, I don't like to pretend that I am or that my friends are. My friends are used to me being direct. And increasingly, they are becoming more direct too. It's a relief, honestly. It feels good to not have to guess.

Yea bro its not about the socks man. You need to get your ass beat and set straight

You seem like you have a foot fetish. "I used to post feet pics ironically" sure you did buddy. You don't got to lie to us this is reddit as weird as your fetish could be there's stuff here a thousand times weirder. Just be honest with us and yourself. You really wanted to see those Lil piggies didn't you?

no means no. You’re not going to lose friends by listening when they say no

Yea, pushing boundaries in a cringy way doesn’t make people laugh. Don’t earn the reputation of the guy who does cringy stuff for a laugh

This. Also, I'll bet it's a lot easier to have the "I can't believe you missed my signals!" Conversation if that side ever happens, than it is to explain to the police why you thought the "no" wasn't real.

Thank you for decoding that, I was having trouble trying to figure it out.

User name checks out

Pretty sure you were the only one who thought it was a "joke"

seems to be the case

Have you considered you might have felt stomach pain and lightheaded because you smashed your head against tile?