Oof I hear you on that one. Queer small town life is hard enough - add parenting on top of it and socialization seems like a faraway dream.

I'm glad you have a small community, and as your kids get bigger you'll be able to find more time for yourself! You'll get there, even in a tiny town.

I recommend the site "meetme" for finding get-togethers, online or in person, so you can meet new people. I started using it during the pandemic to fend off isolation and I've met a couple of cool folks. Good luck! Be patient!