You didn't fuck up. Your family is fucking up. Sorry.
As an adult I learned that I need to take care of myself on my birthdays. Nobody is going to do it for me. I get my own cake, my own gift, and do what I want to do.
If someone I love surprises me with a cake or a meal or a gift then it feels amazing and I show them my gratitude. But I've learned not to expect it.
It's not fair that you have to do this at 15. But apparently you do because your family has growing up to do.
You are fine, OP. You're not the crazy one here. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. And learn to love and eventually forgive them. Take your time with that but the sooner you release your anger at them the sooner you free yourself from it and are able to move on and live your own life and your own story.
CitizenLuke117 t1_j63c5ng wrote
Reply to TIFU by expecting to have a birthday cake from my family by [deleted]
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BEAUTIFUL!!!!
You didn't fuck up. Your family is fucking up. Sorry.
As an adult I learned that I need to take care of myself on my birthdays. Nobody is going to do it for me. I get my own cake, my own gift, and do what I want to do.
If someone I love surprises me with a cake or a meal or a gift then it feels amazing and I show them my gratitude. But I've learned not to expect it.
It's not fair that you have to do this at 15. But apparently you do because your family has growing up to do.
You are fine, OP. You're not the crazy one here. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. And learn to love and eventually forgive them. Take your time with that but the sooner you release your anger at them the sooner you free yourself from it and are able to move on and live your own life and your own story.
Stay strong. Stay loving. You are worth it.