And to add to this, if someone tells you they don't want children, don't tell them that they'll change their mind some day. As a 30 yr old woman in a long term, committed relationship, I've grown quite sick of the number of people (especially other women) who have told me I'll change my mind some day or that if I do happen to get pregnant that it'll make me think differently about it. No, just no. At this point, I've had two IUDs for a total of 8 years. My current one will be replaced this summer for another 5 year one if I can't find a child-free friendly doctor to give me a permanent option. And if I can't, I'll just try again when the next one comes out. And if I do get pregnant, I will get an abortion. It's as simple as that. I make enough money to handle whatever obstacles that may pop up given the current trend in pro-life legislation. I have no qualms about getting it done, getting pregnant would not change my mind about it, it's no different to me than any other necessary outpatient medical procedure.
Sorry that became a bit of a rant, I've just become more and more irked about the whole thing recently because it happens so frequently. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for an ablation soon so I can make people uncomfortable when I tell them about it as a response.
ErinDavy t1_je8265m wrote
Reply to LPT: If a single friend of yours has said they don’t want children, don’t start asking them if they’ve changed their mind if/when they find a partner. by dubdoll
And to add to this, if someone tells you they don't want children, don't tell them that they'll change their mind some day. As a 30 yr old woman in a long term, committed relationship, I've grown quite sick of the number of people (especially other women) who have told me I'll change my mind some day or that if I do happen to get pregnant that it'll make me think differently about it. No, just no. At this point, I've had two IUDs for a total of 8 years. My current one will be replaced this summer for another 5 year one if I can't find a child-free friendly doctor to give me a permanent option. And if I can't, I'll just try again when the next one comes out. And if I do get pregnant, I will get an abortion. It's as simple as that. I make enough money to handle whatever obstacles that may pop up given the current trend in pro-life legislation. I have no qualms about getting it done, getting pregnant would not change my mind about it, it's no different to me than any other necessary outpatient medical procedure.
Sorry that became a bit of a rant, I've just become more and more irked about the whole thing recently because it happens so frequently. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for an ablation soon so I can make people uncomfortable when I tell them about it as a response.