I think if you're seeing someone for several months, a text every day or two, even something as small as 'thinking of you and hope you're having a great day' just shows that, you know, you're thinking of them because presumably, you do? Think of them? Like, once every day or two?

It's odd to me that you think one text every day or two is a lot and it sounds like you don't really want a relationship. Sounds like the only thing you 'ruined' is a super casual fuck, which you can find anywhere so why fret about losing this casual fuck?

All of my long term relationships but one began and were conducted in pre-cell phone days. I never went 10 days without talking to the person I was dating!! Even the 2 - 3 days you mentioned is a long time to go without contact with someone you care about and whose company you enjoy.

I'm guessing that she was the one always reaching out first and now that she's stopped doing that to gauge your level of interest, you showed her your level of interest by forgetting she existed for 10 freaking days.

You don't sound terribly enthusiastic about this woman. It has nothing to do with 'this age of constant contact'. Once every 2 - 3 days (and as long as 10 days!!) is hardly 'constant'. sounds like she really isn't on your mind much at all and you rarely have an urge to speak to her and see how she's doing. Cut her loose man.

While I can understand your anxiety about this, I gotta tell ya, it's a man's world. Women aren't really safe no matter where we go, what we do, what we wear, what we say. That's just the facts. Yes, we can attempt to mitigate possible dangers but it's a crap shoot, either way. Like, for instance, she could correctly identify her Uber driver and he could assault her, as has happened many times. Cab drivers, cops, neighbors, boyfriends, husbands, fathers, uncles. Anyone with a penis is potentially dangerous. It's cute that you think she would be safe in her hotel room. Safer? Yeah, I guess. But we aren't even safe in our own homes. There is nowhere safe for us, unfortunately.

You can tell her you're concerned about her being inebriated in a foreign country and ask if she has a plan for transportation after the nightclub or whatever but honestly? It's your anxiety to deal with because she has her own constant low-level anxiety that she deals with every single minute of every single day. If she can deal with hers, you can deal with yours.