It doesn't work like that in certain countries. People literally disown family members for things they do, that bring shame on them and similar.

This is unfortunately a very naive point of view and depending on how serious it is, could end up with a lot of people not talking to him or harrasssing him.

It's serious enough for him to break up with you over, that should give you an idea what his friends and family are likely to think.

Yeah this very much. Like what... 0 reason to go to a single girl's house your friend who is trying to score with her. Leave the friend to go alone man. Who's walking there dog at 1am anyway. An excuse for the friend to hang out with her longer and them to keep the night going.

Also OP if you read this... Exactly what he is doing, this is what causes you to mistrust in the first place... Someone lying and breaking your trust. He's has now likely caused you to doubt him, check in more and just more hassle. If you want an easy life, this is not the way to do it. He needs a big talk to understand why he's causing himself more, not less problems and just not respecting you by lying.

It's up to you to decide if you're happy with his actions, not him to hide it so you never get to decide. If you over react or in a way he thinks is excessive for the situation, it's up to him to talk to you about it. Lying does nothing but cause small betrayals constantly that break down the relationship more than he realises. It's not worth it.

If you can't see eye to eye on these situations, you aren't compatible and lying won't change that.

That being said, he did answer the phone and face time, so tbh... besides just saying he was somewhere else, he did not really try to hide it. I really think anyone cheating would be trying hard to hide evidence because they know they are doing something wrong. He sounds like he didn't care enough to, because he probably didn't think it was actually wrong, but lied to get himself out of possible trouble... and on doing so caused trouble.

Big big trust conversation should be incoming here. But I actually think that's probably the brunt of it, unless there was other girls there. And if there's going to be hanging out with regular girls on nights like this, and going to their place etc, you should be invited.

It's not assuming, it's inferring directly from what she has said. 'I'm sure he's blowing out to his family so I'll have to deal with their shit later too". That's not something you say when this isn't a normal occurrence or something you've had to deal with before. You don't usually spout totally irrelevant assumptions out with no bases like that. Then you add on that he's held money over her head multiple times in the past, because he earns/pays more than her towards their house/life and suddenly her responses, whilst wrong, all make sense.

It's not assuming anything, it's taking directly from her post and the various comments she's made in the thread

What are you talking about. It's in her comments.

Idk why you're getting downvoted for a normal reaction to previous stuff, that you're being very open and honest about and acknowledging was a bad thing. I swear people see a downvoted post and just base their final opinion on what the majority think.

That all sounds normal, either have a good long chat with him about it and explain what's happened and why, and apologise... or maybe therapy if you're not sure where it definitely came from. You wanted to spend time with him, you can't because of his shifts, but today both missing him and being alone combined with him saying something that made you feel like you didn't provide enough made you overly sensitive, (because he's held money over your head in the past so this seems normal, but could also be your own overly high expectations of yourself and insecurities) and in the moment you said something you shouldn't have about him being absent in the past also.

These things bothered you in the past and maybe you didn't address them enough, but the real issue seems to be that you're ashamed about your money contributions, lonely and he's always asleep because of work. You want more time with him by the sounds of it and to discuss and come to terms with the difference in money.

If you've got friends and hobbies I'm betting you're mostly fine, but not fully with him always awake at different times from you. If you don't have these other support systems, and all you have on the weekends is your kid and a sleeping husband... I'm betting the loneliness is actually killing the relationship and your mental health slowly. Idk what the solution for that is, you probably need to work that out together. You're way more likely to snap and say things like this if you're lonely and getting depressed though, and this sounds like a possibility from what you've described.

If he's oversharing with family and that's coming back in a negative way on you, you probably also need to talk about that. There's asking for advice on complicated things and then oversharing for validation and hurting your partner in the process. He needs to make sure he's doing the former and not the latter.

Yeah she's very specifically said so she has to go through it all again with them too. There's asking for help and advice on complicated issues, and then there's just saying things you don't need to share to make yourself feel better, at the cost of their opinion of your partner changing and them having a go at her later also.

There's a line between the two that you should try not to cross to prevent damaging your own relationship. Their one does not sound good or healthy. You don't need to tell your family and friends every single little mishap or argument or thing your partner as ever said.

She's said one line accidentally, apologised, but he's gone off to his family's, telling them all about it and she's going to have to deal with their opinions and comments on it later. That's not good. He should really be talking to her about it.