Oudeis16

Oudeis16 t1_j66ou70 wrote

Those are your examples? Do a lot of people walk up to you at random and ask you what the tallest building in the world is? That's the sort of question you think is commonly being asked?

Also, how many times does the average hummingbird's heart beat per minute?

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Oudeis16 t1_j66oop5 wrote

Counter LPT: If someone asks you a question they might want to have a human conversation with a real person, and not everyone is wired to assume that the default for everyone should be "interact with as few people as possible." If you constantly find yourself trying to limit human contact unless necessary and shaming those who do not, consider whether that's actually in your own best interests, and whether it makes you a douche to shame others for not doing the same.

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Oudeis16 t1_j63xcj2 wrote

There's a mindset among people in charge that nothing is ever a problem until someone is complaining. So if someone complains, their response might not be "fix the problem." It might be "get the person to stop complaining." If you teach people that they'll be punished if they complain, you'll see complaints drop drastically.

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Oudeis16 t1_j534ebn wrote

It's not a binary. Your options aren't "totally fake" or "drive everyone away with your unvarnished personality." A period of politeness and civility and getting to know someone and letting them get to know you is good and healthy.

Advice like "just show everyone all the bits of you, all at once, without context" is a great way to stay alone forever, and attitudes like "the right people will immediately like you, so if someone doesn't love everything about you from day 1 you should cut them out of your life entirely" are toxic.

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Oudeis16 t1_iyedv0g wrote

And also, just cuz I like saying it. Don't post an LPT if it's not something you personally plan on doing so much as a thing you want everyone else to do to make your life better. If you're a retail worker, think twice before posting "always be nice to retail workers because we're all always perfect". If you're a CSR, maybe consider the other person's perspective before you post "if you're having a wild emergency, ignore it and take the time to ask your CSR about their day before you get all 'me me me' and try to bring the conversation to the broken vacuum cleaner currently eating your children."

If your LPT is just that you personally assume you're always right and are telling other people to assume you're always right, just don't post it.

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Oudeis16 t1_iv0ufj2 wrote

The actual study was for people who themselves had been diagnosed as terminally ill and the stages they went through accepting their own death. It was badly reported and misrepresented and somehow people got the impression that it was how everyone deals with all grief, but it's not especially accurate.

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Oudeis16 t1_itbw7x7 wrote

Being poisonous, itself, is not super beneficial to the specific animal. It's good for the species cuz anything that's about to start eating your kind will die, but it still requires that first sacrificial lamb.

So a second level of defense is advertising. Hey, look at me. Yeah, there's no way to confuse me for another animal. I'm definitely the poisonous one. Don't even try it, I would rather us both live than us both die. Go eat Frank over there.

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