Oh, yeah, trying to bring that into Canada would be a major fuck up.

Speaking as an old school geek, no, it really wasn't social suicide to have those interests in the 90s.

Early 80s it was a bit of a status issue, but even then, it depended upon whether you had other interests and outlets.

Asking about was a mistake. Bringing up him finding bio-family is a whole other fuck-up.

Ouch.

But, still, not really a fuck up. Most people will/would be concerned, although fear of not knowing what to say might make them avoid the topic.

Either way, talk to somebody about how you are feeling.

I'm going to be visiting somebody in the hospital today or tomorrow. Former neighbour.

Everything about the situation is brutal. Dude is 96, his wife died just before Christmas (she was in a nursing home with dementia). He and his daughter ended up homeless in October.

His daughter died last week. And he's in the hospital and not coming out. And, losing his daughter made him suicidal, so, psych ward. And, the rest of his family is in Greece.

My friend and I figured out where he is, and his last name - she went to see him yesterday, and we'll like both see him in the next day or so.

I've been suicidal before, and I have zero idea what to say to him, lol.

Anyway -can't leave him alone with all this.

I don't know, because I'm Canadian, and have a different legal code.

My point was, don't make the usual "American" mistake of assuming foriegn nations have the same laws as the US or Canada.

For one, American law is based on Common Law, French is based on Civil Law.

Yeah, no. French law can be a fair bit different than American law, dude.

First thing I thought of, lol.

Glad to hear it!

Good to hear.

I got bullied a lot in high school, in the 80s. In those days, fighting wasn't as huge a deal, but, still, detention or suspension. And, our principal made the guy in the Breakfast Club seem tolerant and understanding.

Anyway - I always fought back, always got the blame, always got the detention/suspension.

And then, one day, I no longer got punished for fighting back. not even for teh ball peen hammer incident.

Nearly 40 years later, I found out why. Dad had paid a visit to the principal, and threatened him with a beating the next time he blamed me for starting fights.

Having your parents on your side is awesome, dude. Don't take shit from bullies.

"Sure, you lied, and ran the risk of getting charged for driving without a license, or having an accident that his insurance wouldn't cover, but him being upset about that was just so damn abusive!"

Dude was justified about being angry.

My parents ran a small storage business, and about half of their customers just... vanished. My parents actually held onto one guys stuff for 2 years before giving up and emptying his space.

Or not.

I used to have a goatee, and was friends with a woman with 4 cats. Elmo, the most outgoing of them, used to love to sit on the arm of the couch and chew at my beard.

Likely less to do with you having a gay cat that hates men, and more what you said - it regards long hair as a chew toy.

Back in college, meter guy shows up for a reading, so I take him to where the meter is in the basement, where it was obscured by a curtain of drying plants.

We give each other a look, and then the phone rings. It's my roommate "Buddy! Meter guy is coming, you have to move the weed before he gets there!"

"Yeah, no - he's already down there, dude."

Well, except for the part where they said it could just be the other people not being the right kind of people.

For me, it's that you knew it was risky,and lubed up just in case. That's my kind of thinking, hahaha.

Honestly, there are worse ideas to test, at least the family got a laugh.

Most of us try this at a much younger age.

For me, if I can get my ears through, the rest of me will also fit through.

Got yelled at by somebody in the neighbouring building for squeezing through the fence to take a shortcut last summer.

No, dude. Seriously, who thinks high school courses would have an unlimited amount of time to complete?

It's all fun and games until the sounding starts.

Everybody has limits to what they can handle, everyone is allowed to think of their own mental health needs.

nobody has to sacrifice their own well being for you.

It's a shitty reality, but that's life.

Yeah.

One year, just before Christmas, I ate a whole tin of cashews. did you know cashews are mostly fat and fiber?

Woke up in the night gagging on a horrible stink. Looked at teh dog, Bear, and let him know my displeasure. Worried about his stomach, I made him go outside. Oddly, he had no issues, so I figured he had to poop.

Went back to bed.

It wasn't the dog. I was producing constant scalding greasy farts that felt like they were leaving a rancid fog in the air. It was me, all a long.

Feeling bad, I went to let Bear back in.

He refused.

No doubt.

Mind you, when I was a kid, so, 50 years ago, having them out was super common. Like, I don't even think there was an issue with mine at that point.

Take care, dude.

The odds are way higher she's run to another urban environment, not the deep woods.

Buddy's brother did that to my buddy once. I saw the lid rise through the air from the other side of his house.

Cue Chad being chased down by his brother and beaten.

Me at 17 jerking it a few days after a torsion repair.

Just, don't.

Wonder why recovery is so much harder then when you get them out as a kid?

Few days with a sore throat, and done, when I had mine out.

Eating chips the same day I got home was a bad call, though.