How else do they fix it?

Hence the original comments.

It may not be the wise decision if this issue could be resolved.

Lots of emotional responses.

It’s understandable but it doesn’t help long term.

How does he earn it unless they talk?

That is true but it’s time to revisit the issue as an adult.

Feeling shitty didn’t have to last forever. The father wants to mend it but can’t without meeting half way.

Nothing you say shows happiness or apathy. That hostility is unresolved.

It’s too familiar because that’s what you need to do. Holding on to this grudge won’t help you. That’s the difference between still looking at it like a child and growing some awareness as an adult.

Your relationship isn’t OP. So we have no details. OP hasn’t explained anything toxic. Just unfortunate. Hence asking for clarification.

With that same respect, you still sound like an angry child.

Holding a grudge for the rest of your life will only continue to scar you. You sound miserable.

Being angry because he moved on won’t help you. That’s just it. You needed to start caring. A lack of care is the problem.

So 12 years later. The goal is to never work past the father moving on?

He didn’t do it to hurt the child. Unfortunately he was just upset about the situation. Understandable but that is also part of life.

His other comments though aggressive are accurate. This is a grudge from childhood. He could handle it better but not being a great communicator isn’t call for ending a relationship. Unless there are other circumstances beyond that move out.

Because…

So you both handled it poorly.

Is that really reason to end your entire contact with your dad?

You are 23 now. Putting aside how they pressured you. Was it unreasonable for them to want you to be respectful? You were angry at him but unfortunately his decisions weren’t based on your happiness. That’s a tough position for both of you.

What is your actual problem with your dad? His messages are about him wanting you to talk with him. Though not empathetic, they aren’t unreasonable without a greater context.)

Why is she so angry? What is really bothering her? Have you asked? What does she say?

Have a discussion with him during a relaxed and causal time.

Discuss wants, expectations and these issues. See if you both agree.

Do you both have the same vision and goals for the relationship? Find out now.

You noticed after 6 months but it wasn’t a deal breaker. 1.5 years later are you changing your mind?

What answer are you looking for?

It’s 2 years. If you are happy in the relationship then you are overthinking it.

Maybe you are trying to self sabotage?

It’s more interesting that it bothers you. Are you having doubts?

He can feel whatever but you don’t seem comforted by his confidence. Why?