Yum_Kaax

Yum_Kaax t1_j6oy9vk wrote

> The growth “would have been apparent on a standard chest X-ray” and measures to make the birth safer could have been put in place, according to the lawsuit, which seeks unspecified damages.

Reads like the cause of death was a complication during childbirth, quite possibly something like a blood clot. If such was the case it sounds like a very careful review would be necessary to determine if it was caused by a complication of the childbirth (would have happened anyway) or the lymphoma. This is not yet clarified in the article and is very relevant. When people lose someone unexpectedly, they often look for medical mistakes. And it sounds like mistakes may have been made. What I am saying is that it's not clear if those mistakes lead to the untimely death. Because a blood clot can happen, be unrelated, and quite possibly unavoidable as well.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6ogy7n wrote

Reply to comment by ccorbs89 in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

Well, the idea is that you understand where you need to be as the priority in your life, which, if you two can get through this, is also where you need to be for your family. However the feelings of your partner is not in your control, so you could do everything right to be in the place you need to be while she simply chooses to not be with you.

The partner and family is a priority, but one cannot better themselves for the sake of their family. It doesn't work that way. You have to do it for yourself and let gravity do the rest. Otherwise you wind up with the 'i did it all for them" which tends to cause a massive nosedive if the hurt cannot be reconciled. Sort of a way of saying "hey, I made all these changes, I did the work, if you choose to leave me, it's now all your fault." Sort of absolves a person from blame when the original problem may still remain in your partners mind. As I said, learn to accept that she may not be able to reconcile the past no matter what you do.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6o9spd wrote

Reply to comment by ccorbs89 in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

I think that pointing out wrongdoing is not going to help you here, and what may be needed is just an acceptance that damage done cannot always be undone. But you still need to care for yourself no matter how bad you feel about your role in this. Just as she needs to do the same. There was once a time when she saw something good in you and you need to find yourself back to that place, that state of mind, even if it's without her.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6o8d2e wrote

Reply to comment by ccorbs89 in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

Ah, so nothing to do with birding but a joke. Sounds like that was a mistake, but a human mistake. Your partner judged you for it, you won't get any judgement from me. Thanks for explaining it.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6o7njy wrote

Right now there are a lot of companies doing mass layoffs. Eversource would just layoff a few dozen line engineers and blame it on the consumer protest and say that the customers are forcing their hand unless they pay their bills.

I think the better answer here is regulation/oversight putting reasonable limits on rate increases.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6nwqdu wrote

Reply to comment by ccorbs89 in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

Birdwatching is a lot of fun and opportunity to get outdoors and meet others. Great for mental health. Ctbirding.org is the starting point. Just need a pair of binoculars and if you get into it's a fancy camera.

I "collect" bird species like others collect baseball cards. Always looking to see a bird I haven't seen before. It satisfies a certain bit of OCD and the "completionist" part of my personality.

Being actually out there takes you to new places, great exercise and fresh air, and plenty of other birders to meet at the hotspots who are eager to teach you. So go birding for a morning and then go treat yourself to a different social activity like having a beer at a brewery and some lunch. people at breweries are often happy to chat about stuff.

If your looking to talk about more serious issues, the a support group is the way to start. People talk about serious things with friends but it's only good to do with old friends, not new ones. Don't want to scare them away. So separate the two: work to make new casual friends (birding, brewery) and also find a support group to get your more complicated feelings out. In time, the new friends will become old friends.

Good luck

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6ikqtd wrote

As with school, not all math teachers use the same method. You will be required to do what you have been instructed to do. Did you get a booklet or other instructions? Did you check out the DMV website for test faqs?

I stick with ith my answer in that no instructor should be giving you a bad grade for using one method vs another, unless it's an issue of safety. Remember that kids learn from parents with variable skill level. As long as you park ok without it being a safety issue or you doing something extremely weird, you should get a passing score for that.

If you want a definite answer, contact the DMV. Only they can provide that level of confidence in an answer that you are looking for.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6ijc30 wrote

This is not the DMV help center but I think the answer you are looking for is that you need to practice and do whichever method works best for you. So that you park well and can execute the maneuver with confidence. Not a lot of in and out trying to get it right. I think that is what the instructor will be looking for.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j664b8h wrote

Do not DM OP, contact the police. We don't know OP. They could be a stalker for all we know. Probably not but protocol here is to contact police. OP should be perfectly fine with this.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j5p57yp wrote

Those would more or less be the same jobs for undocumented immigrants. Washing dishes, landscaping, construction, stuff like that. The suggestion below of contacting the DoL is good but the DoL can be less than helpful.

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