Indeed, if people are writing about it I'm sure this must be the case. I was speaking from my POV only.

Like I said. Debatable. Just the idea of toxic positivity is mildly infuriating, I mean I do what I do out of goodness of my heart. Not to get internet or brownie points. It's genuine all the way. I'll shut up now.

It's debatable right? Probably at the age I am nobody shares any pain unless they are looking for an advice or solution or comfort. They want that positivity in their life which they have forgotten in that moment. In my experience (I'm not THAT old) women want to vent, but guys are looking for support.

Ok. But what about people like me who are always trying to find a solution to a problem? I live in my in comfortable zone but when someone shares their pain my brain starts to think how to overcome the problem/ situation they're describing. Does that mean that it's toxic positivity? Or sulking with the other person and listening to them melting down in their worries is better (without offering a real solution)?