oh my god, trust me i definitely know better. i promise my boyfriend is not an 80 year old man

i have my phone on both silent and do not disturb, and i’m a very heavy sleeper (have slept through the sounds of a drill in the same room, things like that). i think the repetitive vibrations of the calling is what eventually woke me up since i fell asleep with my phone pressed against my body. the main problem was that (reading my call logs here) my grandparents only tried to call twice at 4am before rapidly escalating the situation, while the sheriffs department repeatedly called in intervals every few minutes until i picked up and told them i was okay.

i googled it and you’re right, apparently 24 hours is a commonly believed misconception. i’m hoping the police won’t take them as serious next time because they have a very long history with the police here, but this is one of the few, far in-between times they have done something to me specifically, so i’m guessing it was taken more critically due to that. once i explained to the sheriff i was fine everything was called off and i just went back home so they wouldn’t try again.

even if i don’t currently agree with your opinion, i can see where you’re coming from and i definitely am luckier than some others in many regards. i do not take this for granted often but my limits are very often pushed. thank you for offering a different perspective to this situation.

i will be doing that when i’m 18, but since they have used my mom’s mental health as a crutch to continue doing it to her for her entire life i will probably also be taking some more preventative measures as well

i was called by the sheriff’s office and told i was filed as missing. i’m not sure if the report would’ve went through until 24 hours had passed or not. i told my grandparents that i thought they had to wait 24 hours to even try to file one but they shut me down with “no! I just called 911, they are coming.” (copy and pasted). within two to three hours they had police at my home, at my former high school talking to my friends who still attend, at my workplace, etc. so maybe not. i do live in a small town where a lot of commonplace laws are ignored or looked over and that may be one of them.

im sorry for replying to every comment on this post, currently i have nothing else to do. im not sure if it’s within reddit etiquette or not haha. i do appreciate everyone offering me perspective, stories, etc. maybe i’m young, naive, and overreacting, but it really is frustrating.

i talked about that with my mom earlier. i was wondering why she didn’t do the same but i guess in her defense they are the people who adopted her and gave her at least a somewhat better life than she could have had. maybe she knew something i don’t. i have no idea

i cant wait. i’ve been counting down the days for what seems like forever now.

this kind of “care” is ridiculous and will continue until either i am 30 or they pass away. they did the same to my mom when she was in her mid-20’s working two jobs living two hours away from them because they somehow had it in their heads that she ran off to mexico. lost her her jobs because they wouldn’t stop calling asking where she was every day of the year, told her friends she was insane and schizophrenic and planning on killing them, because she wouldn’t respond to their texts as her attempt to go no-contact.

im sorry that happened to your guest but im glad that it hopefully worked out for him. i already told them that when i’m 18 they can expect total silence, but the same thing happened to my mother when she was in her 20’s and never stopped. they lost her jobs, friends, and the rest with their antics until she was crawling back to them permanently with me latched at her hip. i made a vow to myself not to do that as well.

planning to go no contact as soon as i’m 18, but i guess that never stops them. they did the same thing to my mom almost every day when she was in her mid-20’s living two hours away.

my mom was in a rehab plan, meaning my grandparents had total authority over me for about 6 months prior to this. since she lives with them rent-free and they could call child protective services on her for the smallest things now, i understand she doesn’t have much of a choice. it’s mostly forced submission :(