Why though?

Tough situation, but to be honest I feel like your mom is a little old to be needing to celebrate on her birthday knowing that you're a young adult with your own life and it's a major holiday. Maybe in the future you could do something with your mom a few days earlier/later? Or I guess alternate years with your mom/boyfriend if it really comes to that.

>but I don't think I will ever be ok with this thing.

Then it's time to move on.

> I don’t need you going through my phone at 7am causing arguments for no reason.

So he has things in it that would cause arguments?

I'm not into invading your partners privacy but it's a huge red flag that he has a password on his and requires that you don't have one on yours.

Regardless, I absolutely would not stay with someone who would kick you out of the car 3 miles from home and refuse to let you back into your own house.

Ahh. Well, I personally don't have any problem with opposite sex friendships. I can't speak for your boyfriend though, you'll have to discuss it with him.

>I would go with a girl friend, and i’m sure they would, but I feel that they would just say “even though i’d go with you me and my bf would like to go here together”.

Why? Are these places romantic in nature? Couples activities?