Are you getting out enough? Even a regular walk around the block helps the mind. Do you have any nature near you? Animals or mountains or the sea? All that will improve your mental state. S/w development doesn’t need to be hell, there are awesome companies out there, can you change your company or contract?

Your best bet is to pick a hobby you’re interested in that forces you to interact with people. Some examples are taking a 6 month language course for a country you’d like to visit, or joining a martial arts club, or painting, or yoga - anything to get you out of the house regularly. If it involves nature you get bonus points (hiking , walking, surfing), because it does your mental state a world of good. Any of those clubs are likely to lead to after-club drinks or coffee or lunch where you can make new friends. Exercise is great for the mind too - you’ll feel much better if you’re getting fitter. Any of this will gradually lift your spirits snd improve your confidence, and you’ll not need to rely on your family as much - it sounds like it’s time to begin a new chapter. Since you’ve got a dog, see if there’s any group doggo walks that end in at a pub or cafe.

Prozac and Paroxetine were evil for me. Citalopram had no side-effects I could detect.

Have you tried low dose 20mg of Citalopram, I noticed it lifted me a little. I don’t take any more because I don’t want to risk zombie-mode like the old meds.

To be honest, it sounds like you’re depressed. If you look at your life, is it a bundle of laughs? If not, you may have some baggage weighing you down, you’d be best speaking to a therapist.

That’s awesome.

If one of these fell out, your credibility would be unrecoverable.

Also, why are they draining and separately, why would you not be able to cut them off if it turns out to be justified for your own mental health?