the_original_Retro

the_original_Retro t1_j9zwqeg wrote

LPT: If you want to get punched or slapped, do that.

Betting OP never actually did this themselves, they're just advising other people to do a /r/shittylifeprotips entry.

LPT: If you want a lower probability of getting punched or slapped, ask "Pardon me, would you mind taking that off of speakerphone?", or just walk away to a different place if that's possible.

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the_original_Retro t1_j9f1v1m wrote

This is the right answer.

I'm apparently a decent public speaker and meeting facilitator that has no difficulty getting up in front of crowds. It's a continuous surprise to me that others fear the hell out of it and it's probably one of the biggest phobias around.

So what I think is simple and routine and straightforward - looking around the room to include everyone, addressing people's inputs directly but firmly, interrupting off-topic or ranty meeting contributors so we can move on - is something that I've been told many times is a "skill" to have.

I don't even notice it. I just do it.

So I don't VALUE it, and its contribution.

And when I wonder "Am I actually worth what I'm being paid?", I don't properly factor it in, while others do.

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the_original_Retro t1_j9d1ns6 wrote

OP said "Texas Chili". That means something. It doesn't mean "big chunks of raw onion".

I am nowhere near an accomplished chef, but I try and cook with balance, because I have a fussy family.

I would be picking these out of my own dish and not consider it a true 'chili' if these comparative onion-bergs were served to me.

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the_original_Retro t1_j6i8zg0 wrote

Okay, so it would be helpful if you cited how old you actually are and some of the books you read that left you feeling "hollow" or "broken and incomplete", because that doesn't sound like a positive outcome of reading.

It CAN be. Some tragic books like Cormac McCarthy's "The Road" generate that feeling, but that was their intention. Perhaps readers feel grateful that they weren't in that world and exposed to that hellscape. But it's not 'enjoyable' so much as it is 'eye-opening'.

But either way, maybe ask for recommendations on something that "changes up" what you're reading so you'll feel something different than what you describe, because that honestly sounds like it sucks.

Maybe you could gain benefit from a hero to support that beats the odds, instead of a book set in a dank setting that makes humanity look awful. Or read a biography about someone actually overcoming adversity that you can cheer on rather than someone that gets crushed by their circumstances.

As an example, Andy Weir's "The Martian" is a colossally good read, with manageable levels of science and a central character that you can really look up to.

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the_original_Retro t1_j6b94cw wrote

You mean "build a sandwich" joints, right?

Because only one fast food burger or chicken place that I've gone to and that I consider "fast food" seems to have this option. Harvey's... and they're silly expensive where I live compared to the others.

I could be living in a place where it's simply not a thing and in the submarine sandwich places it could be. IDK. Would like to hear others' opinions on this.

Maybe a LPT is: Buy your own salad-type fixin's, take your fast food home, and then add them for some nutrition there.

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the_original_Retro t1_j6arqyu wrote

Home brewer here. It's chemistry.

When they put the cap on the beer bottle, they'd already forced a lot of carbon dioxide (the gas that you breathe out) into the liquid in that bottle. They did it by placing the bottle's contents under pressure. And, under pressure, chemistry turned that carbon dioxide gas into a weak and unstable chemical called "carbonic acid" that easily breaks down under stress.

If you were to open the top, and hit the bottle a sharp knock with another bottle, WHAM. That's stress. And the carbonic acid starts to turn back into carbon dioxide REALLY FAST, and you get a foaming up mess.

But it can only do that because it's no longer under pressure. The carbon dioxide needs to go away somewhere so there's room for more to form.

That's why if you leave the cap on, and the carbon dioxide might want to come out, but it really can't... because there's no space where it can go.

As long as the bottle remains sealed, any carbon dioxide that wants to form just increases the pressure in the bottle's little air-bubble headspace, and that increase in pressure just re-dissolves the carbon dioxide back into the water part of the beer.

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the_original_Retro t1_j3l5suy wrote

Pro tip: the legend detracts from a good graph when it's simple and already labelled.

But interesting graph though. Here's how I'd break it down from my armchair.

  • Rowing is about pure raw strength and medium-term endurance. Makes sense that it's the heaviest. The separate bulges are likely men vs women, with a light person being the one that doesn't row but calls the strokes.
  • Taekwondo, I'm assuming, has competitive weight classes, explaining the distributions?
  • Triathlon people are all wiry, stringy muscle and little body fat so they don't have to carry a lot of personal weight for the many miles/kilometers of the competition.
  • Fencing's somewhere in the middle - some fitness, but strength is important.
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the_original_Retro t1_j3l3all wrote

Consider reactive or proactive journals.

A proactive journal is when you make a physical list of the chores you're going to do today, such as on a whiteboard, and you check off each one as it's done. There's a little dopamine in drawing a line through or removing something you accomplished.

A reactive journal is when you have a diary or similar book next to your bed. Each night, you write out what you accomplished. Again, a little hit of dopamine for completing some.

I used the former until chores simply became a habit. Now I don''t consider them "work".

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