trishsf
trishsf t1_jacwko0 wrote
You start with I didn’t get the abortion. Do it in person. He deserves to know this and he sounds supportive. It’s his baby too. Congratulations 🎈
trishsf t1_jact84j wrote
Reply to I (50 F) can't cope with the end of 18 year marriage to 50 M. Where do I go from here? by ThrowRAAHway4321
You will get something for the house. Here’s the bottom line. You will be free. Even if you have to take a job that isn’t your life dream, it’s better than living in purgatory. Find a lawyer. Be free.
trishsf t1_jacsml3 wrote
Reply to My BF (23M) wants to spend a whole year job searching then doing nothing. This feels crazy to me (23F) and it’s causing massive disagreements between us. by ThrowRAchickglass
You aren’t compatible. You can’t turn him into the ambitious man you want. He’s not going to change anytime soon if ever. I wouldn’t spend your 20s waiting around for something that isn’t likely to happen. You’ve grown up and he hasn’t.
trishsf t1_jacqevb wrote
Reply to It was only two months….he didn’t have to stick around….I’m not special….why did he? 27 M 28 F by [deleted]
You just posted this same thing a week ago. You aren’t dating. He’s a friend and a nice one. But. Please see a therapist so you will be ready when someone comes along that is interested romantically.
trishsf t1_jacpyqc wrote
Reply to comment by suspicious_badonk in My 31F Boyfriend 30M is uneasy about me hanging out with new people. by suspicious_badonk
Okay. I would want someone who wanted me on their one free night. But that’s me.
trishsf t1_jacpkla wrote
Reply to comment by aqlsanders19 in Me(21m) in gf (29f) how do I tell her that I do not like her ex on her profile as her husband if she’s going to be with me by aqlsanders19
If that’s true, the last thing she needs is a new boyfriend. We get therapy after leaving an abusive relationship. But. It appears she may have lied.
trishsf t1_jacjmeh wrote
Reply to My (F21) boyfriend (M20) is almost constantly jealous, and feels ashamed for that. by [deleted]
He’s got some work to do before he’s ready for a relationship. You know this isn’t going to last. You are too young to be taking care of a man like this. Walk away. He needs help. That’s not a slam. He really does.
trishsf t1_jacip26 wrote
Why aren’t you spending time together? It doesn’t sound like much of a relationship if you both are choosing to spend your weekends with other people. Honestly it doesn’t look like a relationship at all.
trishsf t1_jacglwj wrote
Reply to Me(21m) in gf (29f) how do I tell her that I do not like her ex on her profile as her husband if she’s going to be with me by aqlsanders19
You THOUGHT she wasn’t with her ex? Seriously? You don’t know? She’s married.
trishsf t1_ja97kjy wrote
No. You become committed when both of you want that and not because she’s pressuring you. It has to be something that you both really want. Curious. How much time have you spent together in real life?
trishsf t1_ja8eevp wrote
Reply to Update: I (24M) want to propose to my boyfriend (25M) but I’m terrified he’ll say no. by Flurzzlenaut
Happy dance!! I told you he’d say yes. Awesome. I’m also really glad you went with the ring. It sounds really special. Congratulations 🎈🎉🎊
trishsf t1_j6p9u9f wrote
Reply to comment by throwaway589690 in Should I (24M) text this girl (23F) everyday because she wants me to? by [deleted]
Stay true to you. Either way, she reeks of high maintenance.
trishsf t1_j6p9o6t wrote
Reply to comment by ragnarocknrock in Need advice on marriage me (33M) wife (31f) of 11 years. by ragnarocknrock
I understand. She basically tried out the single life while still married and then decided you were enough or that she didn’t want to make the effort it takes when single. I’m sorry that happened. I’m big on integrity.
trishsf t1_j6p7nb7 wrote
Reply to My ex (m29) had sex with me (f27) after he decided to break up with me - feeling violated by supergirl724
He behaved selfishly and horribly. You aren’t going to get an apology from someone like that. Be glad he’s in your rear view mirror. No contact.
trishsf t1_j6p7d5p wrote
She only wants guys who are obsessed with her. Run for your life.
trishsf t1_j6p6rts wrote
Reply to My (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) best friend (25M) told me to put my lips on his drink by ThrowRA104848
Tell his friend to quit touching you. End of.
trishsf t1_j6p699z wrote
I have this strange observation. If you can make it past 12 years of marriage, it’s likely to last. I can’t count the number of couples that got divorced year 11 or 12. Here’s what I know. Divorce sucks. I had to leave because he became a very angry man so I left for the kids after giving him many chances to get help. Every time the therapist turned the conversation to his issues, he bailed. You have a great foundation. Would you be able to get past this if you worked together to regain that magic that brought you together? If so, fight with everything you have. Divorce sucks even when you have no other choice.
trishsf t1_j6p51qd wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRAtatteredends in My husband(M26) keeps threatening suicide so I(F33) could finally be happy by [deleted]
He’s thrown you across the room. He’s hit you. He’s verbally abused you. I’m sorry but there isn’t enough money in the world that makes that acceptable. He’ll pay child support because that’s the law. It’s not okay to raise kids in a household that is EVER violent. If you have a son, he’ll become abusive. If you have a daughter, she’ll end up with one. Ask anyone who was raised around that.
trishsf t1_j6p4690 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in (22F) caught my bf (30M) texting another girl. by [deleted]
I thought he wouldn’t leave the house to get help? Only you know if you can get past his actions.
trishsf t1_j6p171n wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in My bf (25M) and i (f22) are barely having s*x and it is beacuse of me by [deleted]
Which is a good reason to see someone else.
trishsf t1_j6oz2wh wrote
Why would you want to stay with someone who is sick but refuses to leave the house to get help? Seriously. That’s depression way past the point that anyone who isn’t a professional can help. It’s like saying I know I have cancer and that if I treat it, I’ll be healthy but I’m not going to treat it.
trishsf t1_j6oxwqo wrote
He searched for stepdaughter porn. You leave. You absolutely leave. Don’t you dare allow him back.
trishsf t1_j6oxjx1 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in My bf (25M) and i (f22) are barely having s*x and it is beacuse of me by [deleted]
If she’s not coming up with solutions then I strongly suggest finding a different therapist.
trishsf t1_j6oxavd wrote
He’s abusive. You are raising your children to either be abusive or to end up in an abusive relationship. He’s verbally abusive. He’s physically abusive. He’s emotionally abusive. You don’t make him any of that. He’s a monster. Call a local domestic violence hotline and ask for help. They will guide you through leaving safely. If you won’t do it for yourself, do it for your children. The kids he hates. That’s not your fault either. He’s a monster. You aren’t even a little bit of the problem unless you stay. You don’t have the right to raise children in this environment. I know. I left for my kids.
trishsf t1_jadvbyr wrote
Reply to 22F/27M Abandonment issue made him escapes from me. Gonna see him tonight need advice from people! by UCCUTE
Okay. You need to see a therapist. This was one month. One month. That’s not patience. You need some help. That’s not a slam. He doesn’t want this and you aren’t hearing him. It was way too early to be acting like this. Please seek out a therapist because life doesn’t need to be this hard.